What is it with "We will tell each other everything because you and I both know that we won't judge each other" and "WE are friends", that all of us do not understand?? Today, me and my friends are in a rut all during exam week. We've had a lot of disagreements in the past, but this has got to be one of the biggest issues we've had, and will probably ever have. Which I kinda take back since we still have 2 more years of college to fuck up. Hahaha. But still.

Anyway, me and my friend were talking about it and here's one thing I noticed. We all love this person and she is one of our very close friends. But even if we both agree on this, we're reacting to the situation in two different and totally opposing ways. He is pissed, I am being empathetic, and this is basically the summaries of how we feel.

Him: "No one's gonna lie to you if you let them lie to you. These are the consequences because she decided to keep this from all of us, and that she let him lie. She has to learn from this. I will not tolerate any of this."

Me: "I don't like what's happening between all of us and I'm disappointed too, but she's our friend. Let's just give her the benefit of the doubt and hope that she learns from this."

I give people the benefit of the doubt just because it feels better that way. It basically just means I trust them enough to know that they mean well, they have good intentions or that they just really didn't see any of this shit coming. I'm not stupid though. When people do stupid things even if they know it's hella stupid and keep being stupid doing stupid things, screw them. But because I know my friend enough to make an assumption that she had reasons why she did this, I will stand by her side and remind her that she still does have friends.

Somehow, a lot of people see this wrong. What's so wrong with giving people the benefit of the doubt? Uhm.. they could hurt you. Or abuse any chances you give them. Or break your trust. Or just screw things up again like how they did before you gave them the benefit of the doubt. Well I'm sorry if I don't like getting angry at people. I seriously don't. It takes a lot for me to get angry or disappointed - which can be both a good and bad thing, but I'm leaning more to the good side. I mean, who likes getting angry? I'm not the most optimistic person in the world, and I do have moments where I want to just scream my head off but I can't get angry at people. Maybe that's one reason why a lot of people like picking fights with me (by a lot of people I mean girls, and mostly boy-related problems).



But that's just me. At the end of the day, no matter how different we deal with this, we're gonna get through this.

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