Long story short. I was in the train with a friend when a boy, let's call him Mr. Car comes up to us and asks the usual thing that Koreans ask me when they hear me speak Korean. How I learned, where I was from, etc. As I said in my previous post, I've been here for two years and get these questions a lot so it was pretty normal for me to talk to a stranger. I don't know if it's just me being me, or me being a Filipino, but we're pretty known to be open and talk to strangers and treat them nicely. So I did, to the point where I gave him my number because we had a mutual friend and said it'd be nice to hang out next time (mistake number 1). Now, a lot of people can tell me I'm crazy for giving away my number but it's nothing too big for me even when I was back in the Philippines. I didn't give it to anybody who wanted it, but gave it when I knew that there was no harm in knowing the person I was giving it too. Anyway, he starts texting me and we start talking and he was pretty nice. Into the conversation, he starts telling me how pretty my eyes looked, how I spoke good Korean, how nice I looked at the train, etc. I say thank you for his compliments and appreciate him. He asks me out for dinner and said, "Sure" because we were going with friends, and I like meeting new people. A few days before our meeting, I was with my boyfriend when Mr. Car calls me at 1 in the morning. My boyfriend asks who he was and told him he was a new friend I made. I didn't answer the phone cos I was talking with my boyfriend but called him a few minutes later (mistake number 2). I ask why he called me to which he replied, "Because I wanted to hear your voice." Uhm... What was I gonna say to that? Aside from the fact that my boyfriend was right next to me where he heard everything..? I told him just go to sleep and I'll see him soon. My boyfriend got pretty upset with this and I understand. I'd be pretty upset too so I explained to him that we were just going to have dinner. But he didn't like that idea either so I told him that I wasn't going to meet Mr. Car anymore.
The next day, Mr. Car kept on texting and texting about what time we were gonna meet or where etc. I felt like I needed to get out of this. Call me rude but I'd rather have him angry than have to risk getting into a fight with my boyfriend. So I told him I couldn't meet him because we had practices for our play that evening (which was true), and that he had to stay til 10 if he wanted to have dinner, which he couldn't because he had to go back home. I'm soooo glad that dinner didn't happen. He told me he wanted to see me and even dressed up properly for our 'date'. Date.. Huh.
A few days later he kept on texting and trying to call me, telling me how much he missed me, how he fell for my smile and how I looked, and how he wanted to see me play guitar and sing, etc. I can't for my life be rude to somebody so I tried to delay and shorten my replies to a few 'Yes,' 'No,' 'Okay' and 'I already ate. Bye.' But he still kept on texting.
I was actually doing a good job with being patient about it but being patient can only get you so far. Tonight I put up a picture of me and my boyfriend and this was our conversation.
Him: 나리야 (Hey, Anna)
Me: 엉? (What?)
Him: 사진 너랑 니남친이야?? (That you and your bf in the pic?)
Me: 웅~왱 (Yea why?)
Him: 아...그냥 니 남친 뭐하는 사람이야? (Nothing.. What does he do?)
Me: 얔ㅋ 대학원생이얌 ㅋ (He's in graduate school)
Him: 아.. 저사람 차있어? (Oh.. Does he have a car?)
Me: 아닝없엉ㅋㅋ (Nope)
Him: 난있는뎁 ㅋ (Well, I do)
Me: 그래서? (So?)
Him: 그냥 그렇다구^^; 왜정색해 (Nothing ^^ Why do you have to be so serious)
In Korea, there is a polite way and informal way of speaking. My boyfriend is older than Mr. Car so he still had to talk in a polite way even if they weren't the ones in conversation. I thought that was very rude. This conversation was the final straw. THAT'S IT. I tried to be nice and tell him. "Hey, I have a boyfriend. I've been really busy with practices." And he's like, "You have time to meet your boyfriend but no time to meet me?" Uhm.. To answer your question, yes..? The difference is that I actually want to see my boyfriend.
That is insulting if he thinks I am going to throw myself at him just because he has a car. 어쩌라고. Whenever a guy tried to court me with their bling I get so insulted and I make sure that they know how I feel because girls deserve more than that. To all the boys of the world: although there are some girls who are blinded by all your bling-bling, there are still some who'd appreciate you for who you are and not what you have. To this shallow-minded boy: 꺼져.
At the end of the conversation, he tried to save himself by saying that he was just kidding, that he just wanted to be friends with me, and that he actually had a girlfriend a few days ago - a girl he met through a friend. I told him to stop texting me, focus on his relationship and delete my number as I already deleted his.
He asked, "So you're telling me to stop texting you?"
"Yes."
"Okay whatever have your fun with your ancient motherfucking boyfriend."
My life is way too much of a comedy. Thank you for being the clown.
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